One thing that I have always been curious about is what traits I get from my parents. Not just the genetic traits or the physical aspects of my body, or even the aspects of myself that you can automatically link back to my parents. I already know that I have terrible eyesight from both my parents, I’m prone to high blood pressure and my height comes from my dad. Fun fact: when I was born, family members thought that I was a boy because I looked so much like my dad. Confidence boost right? Guess that explains the excessive amount of pink I wore as a child…
The things that I’m curious about would be the traits that you can’t see, the personality, how I make decisions, what I have learned, how I have become the person that I am today.
It wasn’t until recently that I’ve realized that my need to constantly travel was something that I got from my parents. It may not be the actual need to travel but rather the curiosity of the world and what it holds that I want to learn all about. My parents have been traveling since as far back as I can remember. In fact my dad always had to travel for work and so I never celebrated my birthday on my actual birth date because he always had a conference in another country. Fun fact number 2: we actually celebrated my birthday on my birth date as a family for the first time when I was 17.
When I was in high school and could take care of myself, my parents would take road trips to places they’ve never been. My mom started joining my dad on his work adventures and they started planning vacations without me. In fact, I remember when I was 15, my parents had an opportunity to go live on the Amazon for two weeks in a boat…so they did…without me. I still had school. My parents have done tours of the world without ever bringing me and as much as it makes me sad that I didn’t discover my love of traveling when I was younger, it makes me appreciate just how much I learned from watching my parents. When they would come back from an adventure and they would show us pictures, tell us stories and help us live the adventure as if we were with them; I knew that I wanted to see more of the world and now, I do.
I am proud to say that I get my curiosity from my parents. I’m also proud to say that I get my compassion from them. My dad is retired now and spends his days flying around the world to volunteer at schools, libraries and orphanages in Asia. My mom spends all her free time watching Chinese soap operas while knitting and everything she knits is donated to organizations to help those in need. Every Thanksgiving and Christmas, she drops of blankets, scarves and hats to local organizations to help keep people warm. She uses her hobby to help others with the expectation that someone will be kept just slightly warmer than they would have been previously.
These are just a few things that I get from my parents and obviously I get other things from them such as my stubbornness or my need to be right. And my insane love of food and the ridiculous ability to logically talk my way out of doing anything. But I’m glad that my parents have shared those parts of themselves with me so that I can be the person I am today.
What traits of your parents do you see in yourself? I hope that it’s all happy things that make you feel closer to the person you hope you can be one day.